I am sure parents with more than one child know that attention needs to be spread, as much as possible, equally between your children. With the birth of our second son in March it has been a wonderful experience to see him develop through the stages. Now he is on the brink of walking! I don't want to miss it. Our oldest son is a very independent 8 year old. He is content playing with his electronic circuit set, Legos or his DS game. It is easy to let him play while I enjoy the time with the youngest, Vitorio.
Knowing all this and how each child NEEDS some one to one time with us we look for opportunities to provide the kids with this time. Last night, was one of those times. My oldest son, Anthony, enjoys playing hockey and we stayed local and went to see the local high school hockey team play. It was a great night out. We arrived at the rink bought some popcorn and found excellent seats high in the bleachers. We chatted about hockey and when game time came my son's inner fan came out as he cheered for the team! "Keep that puck in the zone!" he yelled. "Don't give up!" he shouted. Clapping and screaming with every goal and signs of frustration with every goal the other team scored. In the end, our team lost. He was pretty upset. (I like that he is so passionate and emotional) Trying to console him I told him that tonight was not all about the game. I explained that tonight was about us spending some quality time together, chatting about hockey, rooting for our team and enjoying some popcorn together. Putting his arm around me he said, "Thanks Dad." As we waited for the crowd to dissipate and watching the Zamboni clean the ice, I sat there enjoying the moment.
My son and I have enjoyed our "Guys Nights". I hope to continue them with our new son but always remembering that each child will need their own "Guys Night".
How do you ensure each of your children gets the attention that they seek or need?
